Story - added 28 June 2004
Most of the highlights of Marie's pregnancy with Blaise, including
ultrasound images, were documented online in Blaise's
web log (blog). In summary, Marie got pregnant on the first
try. Although underneath Marie was happy, her first words were,
"I think I'm going to be sick." Ron was shocked too. He
was hoping to have a few more months of getting used to the idea
of committing to a larger family (and hoping to have some more months
The first trimester was pretty hard for Marie -- super nausea which
we finally realized was a reaction to the prescription prenatal
vitamins she was taking. Marie had some minor complications here
& there (like a blocked urethra for about 8 days - ouch! and
early contractions caused by an infection), but she made it!
Ron wasn't able to concentrate much on Blaise's 9 months as a fetus,
because it's not quite the same with a pre-preschooler around. But
Blaise's super activity in the womb couldn't be ignored. He was
quite the mover. It was always neat watching Marie's belly move
around as if an alien was inside trying to get out.
...and one Day
Blaise was born on Wednesday June 23, 2004 at 8:30pm. Since Marie
had been having false labor nightly for almost three weeks, when
she awoke at 3am on the 23rd, she
initially thought the contractions were likely to go away by morning.
But at 6am, she saw no signs of the contractions subsiding. She
told Ron, but he was hoping that it was a false alarm. He really
wasn't ready (when would he be???).
Marie took Freya to the park in the morning. The contractions started
getting more intense, but Marie tried not to react much and continued
to play with Freya and chat with other playgroup moms. By the time
she got home and had lunch with Ron, her contractions were about
five minutes apart and of a
Freya snuggling with Marie after waking from
her afternoon nap.
(Click the image for a larger picture.)
| duration of about 45 seconds. They planned
to time them again at 2:40pm. But at 2:15, Marie had "bloody
show" so she knew Blaise would be coming soon.
Ron immediately went into semi-panic mode trying to figure out what
needed to be done first. Within seconds he was peppering Marie with
Marie made a 4:30 appointment with her doctor (Dr. Lilia Lizano,
Pinole, CA) to check on progress before the office closed, and Ron
started finishing up packing his bag -- putting the cell phones
and chargers in his backpack and preparing dinner for him -- PB&J
sandwiches and Power Bars. Marie's mother (Chula), father (Hubert),
and sister (Claire) were vacationing near Lake Tahoe so we called
to say "It's time!" It would take quite a while for them
to get to Hercules, so we arranged to have a friend, Portia Lee,
care for Freya between 6pm and when Marie's parents arrived. (Cecelia,
Freya's babysitter watched her from 3-6pm.)
Ron trying to comfort Marie.
When Marie finally got in to see the doctor (at 5pm), she was
3 centimeters dialated and her cervix was 80% effaced. Dr. Lizano
asked if we wanted to go immediately to the hospital, but we needed
to go home to pack the car and walk Freya over to Portia's house.
On the short walk to Portia's house, Marie had to stop a few times
for contractions (standing behind Freya's stroller). Each time Freya
said, "Why we stopping? This Portia's house?" By the time
Marie & Freya got to Portia's, Marie's contractions were very
intense. She went to the bathroom for a contraction there, so as
not to frighten Freya and her friends!
Freya really enjoyed being at Portia's house, because she got to
have dinner there, jump on their trampoline, and then take a bath
with her friend Tatiana. As
Blaise just seconds after delivery.
you'll hear, the next 1-2 days were heaven for Freya.
The ride to the hospital was tough, but Marie maintained focus
and could still talk in between contractions. When we arrived at
Alta Bates Hospital in Berkeley (at 6:45pm),
Marie was immediately admitted, and our Doula, Meghan Lewis, showed
up shortly after. Meghan was great. She had a bag of tricks to help
Marie cope. Ron stepped out of the room to get the CD player, and
when he got back at 7:30, Marie was in tough shape. She was trying
different positions with Meghan, but felt like she was losing control
and wouldn't be able to continue. She began begging for help (an
epidural). Unfortunately, there were a few emergency cesearean sections
going on at the time and the anesthesiologists were unable to come
to Marie's aid in time. We were hoping
Marie with Dr. Jill Foley, Nurse Tanya, and
Doula Meghan Lewis
they would arrive quickly, but Blaise arrived quicker.
The doctor on call, Dr. Jill Foley, was great. Meghan and the nurse,
Tanya, kept Marie from pushing until Dr. Foley got there. She helped
Marie guide her pushing. Ron didn't get
light-headed this time (at least not too much).
It took three more hours for a recovery room to be ready and nobody
got much (any?) sleep. Blaise has morning and night reversed. He
didn't really sleep any length of time until 7:30 Thursday morning.
Freya's first peek at Blaise.
Freya, Marie's parents, sister Claire, and her two children Ellie
& Angelo visited the hospital at 11am Thursday morning. Freya
was super excited. First she got to spend the
evening at Portia and Tatiana's house; then her Grandma Chula and
Grandpa Bear came to pick her up, and then her cousins Ellie &
Angelo slept over; and then she came to meet her baby brother.
Freya is a very protective sister already. Chula rested her hand
on Blaise for a short while, and Freya looked at Marie and said,
"I don't want she touch baby." Plus Freya received a gift
from Blaise himself! He gave her a baby front carrier for her dolls.The
food service man gave all four of the children a small teddy
Blaise's first visitors - Grandma Chula, Grandpa
Bear, Aunt Claire, and cousins Ellie & Angelo
bear; Freya's went immediately into her carrier.
One strange coincidence that occurred in the hospital was that
on the tag of the tea bag that Marie used with her noon tea one
day was the following quote:
"We arrive at the truth, not by the reason
only, but also by the heart." -- Blaise Pascal
Days Three - Seven
Marie, Ron & Blaise went home on Friday (Day 3) in the early
afternoon. Blaise sleeps very well during the day, but night time
is a different story. Luckily he is a better sleeper than Freya
was (for now at least). But Night #6 was rough. Let's hope it's
not a precedent.
The tired family leaving the hospital.
|Ron's taking off a bit of work to help the new family
adjust. And Chula and Hubert are spending a good deal of time to help
with the new challenges. We really appreciate all of the warm wishes
and food (!!) we've received and will receive. :-)
Thank you for your interest in reading this whole page! We'll update
Blaise's section of the web from time to time. Please do check out
his web log and his sister Freya's
Love, Marie, Ron, Freya & Blaise
Is that a smile or is he....?